S05E19 · EP 116
season 5 · 1999-04-22
The One Where Ross Can't Flirt
written by Doty Abrams · directed by Gail Mancuso · 20.85M viewers · image Friends Wiki (CC BY-SA)

Episode DNA

20 scenes · 3 threads
misunderstanding 22%awkward 16%tense 9%humiliating 9%cheerful 6%humiliation 5%tender 5%scheme 4%social rule violation 3%secret exposed 3%

Story threads over runtime

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0:005:0010:0015:0020:00
A · Ross flirts with Caitlin
B · Joey's grandmother deception
C · Monica's lost earrings
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Every scene

20 scenes · our breakdown
1 ▸ 00:02
1 · Monica and Chandler's apartment · act1Ross Accuses Chandler of Flirting

Chandler jokes with Caitlin, Ross accuses him of flirting, leading to a debate.

00:02–02:15misunderstanding · social_rule_violation
2 · Monica and Chandler's apartment · act1Ross plans to flirt with Caitlin

Ross admits he likes Caitlin and plans to flirt when she returns with Phoebe's pizza.

02:15–03:59misunderstanding · scheme
3 · Monica and Chandler's apartment · act1Joey introduces Italian grandmother

Joey brings his grandmother Nonnie, who speaks only Italian, to watch his TV debut.

03:59–04:25misunderstanding · social_rule_violation
4 · Monica and Chandler's apartment · act1Monica and Chandler plan anniversary

Monica and Chandler celebrate their 10-month anniversary, and Chandler asks her to wear the earrings he bought.

04:25–05:12misunderstanding · social_rule_violation
5 · Monica and Chandler's apartment · act1Rachel loses Monica's earring

Phoebe asks Rachel for the earrings, but Rachel reveals she lost one, causing panic.

05:12–06:12misunderstanding · secret_exposed
6 · Monica and Chandler's apartment · act1Joey's TV scene approaches

Joey nervously watches his Law and Order scene, while Nonnie waits eagerly.

06:12–06:52misunderstanding · escalation
7 ▸ 06:52
7 · Monica and Chandler's apartment · act1Ross's First Flirting Attempt Fails

Ross tries to flirt with Caitlin but makes awkward comments about her hair and 8-year-old boys.

06:52–07:34humiliation · misunderstanding
8 ▸ 07:34
8 · Monica and Chandler's apartment · act1Ross challenges Chandler to flirt

Ross argues with Chandler about flirting and decides to prove his skills by ordering another pizza.

07:34–09:22rivalry · misunderstanding
9 · Monica and Chandler's apartment · act2Joey discovers he's cut from show

Joey realizes his scene was cut from Law and Order and panics about telling Nonnie.

09:22–11:16misunderstanding · escalation
10 · Monica and Chandler's apartment · act2Monica asks Phoebe for earrings

Monica asks Phoebe for the earrings, but Phoebe reveals she already gave them to Rachel.

11:16–11:27misunderstanding · secret_exposed
11 · Monica and Chandler's apartment · act2Ross practices flirting on Phoebe

Ross practices flirting with Phoebe, but she doesn't understand, and they discuss flirting rules.

11:27–13:16misunderstanding · social_rule_violation
12 · Monica and Chandler's apartment · act2Joey leaves to fake his scene

Joey decides to leave and record a fake scene to show Nonnie, desperate to avoid disappointing her.

13:16–13:28scheme · misunderstanding
13 · Monica and Chandler's apartment · act2Phoebe takes blame for lost earring

Phoebe confesses to Monica that she lost the earring, and Monica forgives her.

13:28–13:36confession · misunderstanding
14 · Monica and Chandler's apartment · act2Rachel reveals truth about earring

Rachel admits she lost the earring, and Monica angrily confronts her about borrowing things.

13:36–15:49confession · double_standard
15 ▸ 15:49
15 · Monica and Chandler's apartment · act2Ross's Second Flirting Attempt Fails

Ross tries to flirt with Caitlin but ends up talking about gas and methane, scaring her away.

15:49–17:42humiliation · misunderstanding
16 ▸ 17:42
16 · Monica and Chandler's apartment · act2Ross embarrassed by flirting failure

Ross is humiliated by his failed flirting, and the group teases him about it.

17:42–17:56humiliation · misunderstanding
17 ▸ 17:56
17 · Hallway outside apartment · act3Rachel talks to Caitlin for Ross

Rachel catches up with Caitlin and convinces her that Ross was flirting, praising his qualities.

17:56–19:10pursuit · misunderstanding
18 ▸ 19:10
18 · Monica and Chandler's apartment · act3Ross gets Caitlin's phone number

Rachel returns and gives Ross Caitlin's phone number, which he initially doubts.

19:10–19:15misunderstanding · coincidence
19 ▸ 19:15
19 · Monica and Chandler's apartment · act3Joey's fake scene backfires

Joey shows Nonnie a fake crime scene video, but it ends with Chandler singing, ruining the illusion.

19:15–22:07scheme · impersonation
20 · Monica and Chandler's apartment · act3Monica and Chandler leave for dinner

Monica wears different earrings, and Chandler doesn't notice, as they leave for their anniversary dinner.

22:07–22:11misunderstanding · secret_exposed
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Episode facts

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Aired
1999-04-22
Overall
#116
Writers
Doty Abrams
Director
Gail Mancuso
Viewers
20.85M (US)
Pace
120 words/min · 98 questions

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In this episode

CB
Chandler Bing232 episodes · drives 527 scenes
RG
Ross Geller232 episodes · drives 707 scenes
RG
Rachel Greene232 episodes · drives 552 scenes
PB
Phoebe Buffay232 episodes · drives 425 scenes
MG
Monica Geller232 episodes · drives 572 scenes
JT
Joey Tribbiani232 episodes · drives 536 scenes
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NonnieLilyan Chauvin3 episodes
JG
Jack Geller38 episodes · drives 2 scenes